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Anger Management

Anger can be as simple as a temporary annoyance, or as destructive as a consuming rage.  Everyone experiences anger; it is completely normal and in some cases even healthy.   

However, when it gets out of control it can become destructive, and lead to problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.

The source of anger can be internal (angry feelings from remembering past events or wrongs), or external (from irritations in your immediate environment).   Anger can be directed at a person, or a circumstance (such as family conflict or experiences that occurred while in a war zone).
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By controlling anger you can reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that make you angry, nor can you change them, but you can learn to manage your reactions.

 Here are some simple techniques you can try:
 
 - Take several deep breaths; breathing from your chest won't relax you; breathe from your "gut."


 - Remove yourself from the situation if possible.  Walk away.  If possible take a brisk walk.


 - If the anger is from an internal source tell yourself that continuing to think about the situation in the same way is not helpful; re-direct your thoughts.  Think about things differently.  Mentally, step back.    Think logically about results and consequences.

  -    Do not become angry about something that might happen.  There is no reason to be angry about something that has not happened.  Don’t let your imagination run away with you.


-    If you are angry at another person, learn to take the role of a listener.   Breathe deeply and think before you answer.   


-    If you are in a situation where you might hurt yourself, a loved one, or a child, please call the hot line for help immediately.  Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it is a demonstration of strength, respect and love.


You can control your anger.


“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up ... and we take captive every thought to make it obedient .”


For immediate crisis counseling:
http://www.veteranscrisisline.net/      
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